Things I’m Afraid to Tell You

Things I m Afraid to Tell You

I came across this blog post on Creature Comforts a long time ago and have been meaning to write my own ever since. It turns out that “Things I’m Afraid to Tell You” was a huge blog movement in 2012. Huffington Post wrote an article about it. It was a backlash against the blog world’s tendency to portray the lives of bloggers in a perfect, sanitised, and censored light. If anything, I worry about the opposite – that I say too much and share too much of my negativity. Even so, I appreciate the idea so here it goes.

  1. I don’t have a tribe and probably never will. I don’t identify with the online all-female mixed-media shabby-chic clique. I’m too cynical for all the new-age spiritualism and just generally feel like misbehaving and being contrarian when in this environment. I realise that a hefty proportion of readers of this blog are of this persuasion and I hope me saying I don’t feel an affinity to this group doesn’t leave you feeling judged. It’s just not for me. It’s cool if it’s for you.

  2. I spent most of my twenties never ever initiating get-togethers with friends because this requires a belief that people actually want to spend time with you and enjoy your company. The idea of doing anything for my birthday still terrifies me. To me, birthdays are annual popularity evaluations.

  3. I’m ashamed of how unproductive I am. I’m so appalled that it’s February already and I’ve achieved nothing. I have absolutely no excuse for this.

This is supposed to be when I say how freeing and real I feel now, but I’ve spent so long trying to think of scary things to tell you all I just generally feel a bit down. I hope somebody got something out of this. In hindsight this is probably only a cathartic exercise when you’re doing it as a blog challenge with hundreds of other bloggers. Doing it wrong…

8 Comments Things I’m Afraid to Tell You

  1. Ez

    I’m so glad you participated in this challenge Katherine…and I for one don’t think that you did it wrong. I can totally relate to all three of your revelations…but especially no.03! There is truly no good excuse for it, but I’ve spent too many hours to count this year, just wasting time when I should be pushing myself harder so that I can finally achieve some goals of mine. I’m not sure where my self-sabotaging lack of motivation is coming from, but I’m hoping it will pass soon! In any event, it is comforting to know that I’m not alone. I hope we’ll both be checking to-dos off our list soon! Thank you again for taking part in the challenge! xo Ez

    1. Katherine

      Oh, thank you for commenting, Ez! I’ve been ignoring this post since it was published. I feel like your comment has diffused all of the tension I’ve been feeling about this post!

  2. stacy

    What a breath of fresh air, I can relate to everything you said. This is my first time on your blog and half way through this post I thought to myself ” I’m gonna like this girl.” Thank you for being real.

  3. ritamariagallery

    Katherine, I’ve really neglected my blog lately and it is because most of what I have to say is a little melodramatic and emotional, leaning towards the negative. I hear people’s snorts and clicks out of my page before I even write the post so I just don’t do it. After reading yours, I may have to rethink this.

    1. Katherine

      It’s a constant battle for me with blog neglect. One that I lose. Every. Single. Time. I don’t always feel okay about (over)sharing. But when I do it’s because someone’s done it for me. That is, I’ve read something someone has written, which has disqualified an item on my “I thought it was only me” list, which is a magical feeling.

  4. Shona

    Just another voice to say thank you for writing it down and sending it out to the world. I can identify with all of those points you made, but the most strongly with 2. I cannot ever remember enjoying my birthday and have stopped many things in life (a budding career in musical theater, opportunities to play music elsewhere, and a blog I loved but couldn’t believe anyone would read without scoffing) all because I could hear the criticisms before I’d started. So many opportunities lost.

    Anyway, thank you for being brave. Thanks for writing as poetically as you do and for sharing your lives with us.

    1. Katherine

      Every comment on this post is a balm to my insecurities so thank you for taking the time and thought to comment. I really do genuinely appreciate it. x


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